Tim Dunlop, writer

Advocates of gay marriage commonly argue that there is widespread public support for the proposition. And certainly, I would prefer to see same-sex marriage included in the Marriage Act than the status quo. (Of course, if I had my druthers, we wouldn’t have government regulating marriage at all.) Plainly legalisation has staunch opponents too — religious groups in particular. But it’s also likely that there is a large bloc of voters — middle class, suburban mums and dads — who would be personally indifferent to the idea of gay marriage, because it’s simply not an issue that affects their lives. For them, it is not a ‘core’ issue — unlike say, energy costs, prices at the supermarket and interest rates. That is not to suggest that issues of equality should be regarded as subordinate to economic issues — after all, politicians should be capable of passing (or repealing) laws on important social issues without distracting from important economic issues. But many voters are unlikely to give more than a passing thought to discrimination unless they (or others close to them) are discriminated against.

On the issue of gay marriage, apathy is not the only issue. Within that likely large, personally disinterested group, there may also be some thought — though they might never articulate it — that there is something ‘wrong’ about homosexuality. This sense is understandable in the same way that I can’t figure out why anyone likes Victoria Bitter. I don’t know what it is in their brains that makes them think that VB is drinkable. To me, that seems wholly ‘unnatural’. Ultimately people have different tastes and preferences, and at a high level, that’s something virtually everyone understands. It’s in the details of our lives where it gets murky. “Of course, we’ve all got different points of view… but we must ban communist parties because they threaten our way of life.” “I don’t want to tell people how to live their lives… but people shouldn’t be allowed to get facial piercings.” “Sure, I don’t have to watch it… but we’d all be better off if reality TV was taken off the air.” This might seem to be trivialising the issue: it isn’t. These are all manifestations of the inability of individuals to tolerate specific differences, even though they might publicly avow (and genuinely consider that they possess) a general tolerance for such differences.

Writing for The Drum, Tim Dunlop argues that gay marriage will one day become a reality. But that on its own is not the end point for defeating discrimination — important though it is, it is merely one hurdle to overcome. Just as the community perception of gender has changed — for example, despite pockets of resistance, we are now broadly accepting of women in the workforce in a way that would have been inconceivable fifty years ago — so too must homosexuality be normalised in the public consciousness. Put simply, while we have made great strides in achieving equality in our society, there is much still to be accomplished.